You come across as a doer rather than an achiever.

You come across as a doer rather than an achiever.

These are the words that someone said to me once,they seem to be stuck in my mind.

Are they right ? 

Do I do a lot and not actually achieve results?

What is a doer - the person who does something.A person who acts rather than merely talking or thinking.

Associated with positive words - worker,organiser,activist,succeeded and ACHIEVER.

So is it possible to be both a doer and an achiever ?

What is an achiever - a person who achieves a high or specified level of success.

Key words - performer,worker,entrepreneur and DOER.

“In basic terms a doer is someone who simply lists their responsibilities and duties.”

“An achiever reframes those responsibilities into their accomplishments.”

“Doers are practical, but friendly and they usually have a great sense of urgency and like to be in charge. They focus on tasks.”

“An achiever covers quantifiable improvements rather than task focused. They use powerful and compelling content to showcase their shining moments.”

So do I just list me responsibilities and tasks rather than actually putting pen to paper pardon the pun and get out in the world and make shit happen.

The example that comes to mind is Someone that tells everyone that they are going to the gym or a certain exercise class in order to push and give themselves motivation to actually go.As opposed to someone who tells themselves,right tone to go to the gym and off they go,get on with the task and boom they’ve achieved a task off there check list.

I was given the advice from a careers professional who doesn’t know me as a person,but only from my CV.

I can’t help but feel I have taken this sentence to heart.Has it struck a chord with me personally.

I am always going on about getting a good job,making lots of money and being successful.In order to life to the highest and afford an apartment in London.

My latest is that if I haven’t achieved a well paid job by June,1/2 way through the year in order of me just repeating the year with no change.I am just going somewhere away.Do not know for how long or where,but a destination out of the UK.Travelling.

Maybe I need to be more conscious of how I’m spending my time and that I make the most out of it and achieve great results.

What’s your opinion on this ?

Carla 

Making a pact with myself

Making a pact with myself to have monthly check ins with myself,to see if I've achieved anything: if I'm happy with people who I'm surrounded by and how my mental health and wellbeing are,to see if I'm closer to reaching my goals.

To cut down on social media and stop comparing myself to others,or be influenced by other peoples lives.

To wear what I want and to be more optimistic and nice to everyone I meet,to try and be a sunshine on someone's day.

Carla 😊

Happiness

The purpose of this post is to share with you some tips I found useful when I found myself stuck in an obnoxious mind.I'll try my best to make as much sense as possible.

It's incredibly important to be happy.Not only in your life or others,but its vital to be OK with who you are!
I'm not the person who necessarily believes in "everything happens for a reason".I also am not one to go by cliché-cheesy quotes or mantras.But each to their own.

Each and every one of us,even those who are astonishingly positive and optimistic,have bad days and periods in our lives where we feel a bunch of obnoxious emotions.Sadly there all apart of life.

In my experience feeling like you don't have a purpose is the worst.Some say "life is short" and it is in the sense that you should make memories and have fun as you don't know what can happen tomorrow.On the other hand life isn't short, for most of us and we could be here until were 100.


TIP UNO - Don't compare yourself to others! social media is the big cause of confident issues,were all individuals and different in many ways and your great being who you are!

TIP DOS-  Surround yourself with the right people.Who you hang around with is more important than you think.We're creatures of habit and don't like change so changing your friendship group might seem terrifying. Positive energy is contagious so try and be around people who love you for you and you enjoy being around.

TIP TRES- Routine-Having a purpose to get up and do things! This may be harder if your un-employed or if you work from home,but try to compose some sort of routine in your day so that you feel you have a purpose and stay sane.Otherwise you'll get up at noon daily and slump around all day which will lead to you being extremely unhappy and even isolated.

TIP CUATRO- Music - listening to music is a big factor of my life and just listening to my favourite song or shuffling on spotify can immediately change my mood.listen to your favourite artist or why not throwback to songs you used to love and have good memories of.

Eliza doolittle -Walking on water

Flume-Never be like you


TIP CINCO-Leave your house- Even if you don'tt have plans,Just go on a walk or take yourself to your favourite coffee shop.Staying in the same environment daily isn't good for your brain as your mind will get bored.

TIP SEIS-YouTube - watching you tube gets my mind of things and there's billions of videos you can watch.TheDailyDubs my go to youtuber is ayydubs. she has an amazing personality and it really is contagious I just want to be besties with her.Shame she doesn't even know I exist! (cry face)

If you found this post helpful in even the slightest way please leave a comment or tweet me carlaslifex
letting me know if you'd like any more tips.

TIP SIETE- Learn to love yourself - This is a whole new topic and  post itself, but try to accept yourself for you and you'll feel 1000 % better.

Carla X